There are many women amongst us that are actually struggling on their personal life and that is because they chose to let their lives be led by a man in the name of love.
Love is great, love is powerful, love is strength and happiness. What happens though when you mistaken love with the need of someone? That need that comes from the fear of being alone; the fear of silence and isolation? The fear of not being able to love and be loved.
And because of that fear, we make bad choices. Fear makes your mind blury and affects your judgement, and right there is where we take the wrong turn. Right in that moment everything seems right, everything seems like it’s falling into place and that our greatest prayers have finally been answered. Fear is tricky, it makes us see things that are actually in disguise.
The moment of truth
So what happens after we take the turn? Life happens, unfortunatelly not as we imagined it would. Pure, raw and definately not in disguise. Thats the ugly truth.
When you settle, you automatically put your dreams, your needs and your desires aside. Your life does not seem to be the one you dreamt of and your “love” starts to slowly show its real face. You know why that happens? Because the fear is gone..and when the fear is not there things start to look clear again. And then you find yourself lost in the middle of the ocean trying to swim during a storm. And you feel like you’re drowning and you struggle to take a breath and make it safely to shore.
But at what cost? You have lost yourself in the process, you forgot your hopes your dreams, you forgot who you were. You bruised and broke a hundrend times until that moment and this is where you ask yourself whether this was what love meant. Of course it’s not, it never was; that was your fear.
But you finally made it to shore, and despite what happened you did it.
We create our own happiness, and we are the only person that can love us uncondionally and make us happy. Noone can ever love you, respect you and support you the way you do for yourself. We deserve the world, and noone will ever give it to us, we have to fight for it and gift it to ouselves.
So i am asking you, is the fear worth it?
