Every time I visit home and meet with old friends and relatives they always ask me when am I going to get married and have children. Now that’s a question that requires more than just a simple answer.
For me, there is nothing wrong with not being married and have children unless you really feel you want to. It all depends on the way you see things. Most of the people though have this mindset that once you reach a certain age you need to get married and have children. But why? Who sets the deadlines in your life? Why has it become so socially unaccepted to be over a certain again and not be married? People start to think that there is something wrong with you if you do not follow the same path that the society has set.
I believe that people that think like that is just because they do not know any better. For them life is pretty straight forward and organized in boxes. Go to school, check; go to college, check; get a job, check; get married, check; have children, check. And then what? You managed to level up according to their standards, but then what? Maybe this life is an acceptable one for some, but that does not mean that everyone should follow this path. It is very difficult for them to understand that you live a life that didn’t exist in the past and you are actually enjoying it.
Life is beautiful and has so much to teach you. The world is big, and you do not just broaden your mindset by the books you read or the documentaries you watch. No matter how many of those you read or watch you will never know the world unless you see it with your own eyes, interact with different cultures, taste different traditional cuisines; unless you explore and learn for yourself.
I was once one of those people. I had my boxes in order and a plan to help me tick them. And then, beautiful life happened. I am more than grateful for all the choices I made in my life because they made me who I am and brought me where I am. I have learned so much and I am thankful every day. I have realized how important it is to have your own space and do things that make you happy. I put my self first and enjoy every moment this life has to give me. So whenever people ask me when I am going to get married and have children, I simply tell them – when I will meet someone that will make me feel like it. Because I believe in myself, and I know that I will be ready to do whatever I need to do as long as it is the right thing for me and at the right time. Not before and certainly not when someone else decides for me.
Getting married and bringing life into this world should not be a decision taken lightheaded. We are responsible for that, and we need to make sure that this is coming from our heart.
